Last night a girl I know reached out to me and she asked me a very valid question. Knowing that the message I sent to my ex’s girlfriend was only intended for her she asked, “So why post it online then if it was only intended for one? You will always get hate or backlash for any opinions especially very personal ones.” It’s true, there is always opposition.
My own husband was unsure for a while until he started actually reading my blog and then experiencing the hate, hypocrisy, and lies of my ex and his family. Now? Now all he does is understand, support, and encourage.
Not knowing how else to help her understand, I sent her the following messages. These messages are between one of my ex’s aunts on his mom’s side and my dad. (I have changed my ex’s family’s last name to “Green” and my ex remains “Casey”.)
Her response after reading them? “Wow. I don’t really have any words. I understand now why you are doing what you’re doing. I’m sorry if it seemed like I was bashing you or anything.” I of course held no ill will or feelings toward her. I mean, unless you have the full picture, how could you understand?
So now it’s your turn. After reading this, what will your response be?
Dear Bro. Bekmezian. No one has asked me to write to you. I do this completely on my own and will keep this to myself in hopes of creating peace. You have a wonderful family. “Greens” also have a wonderful family. All of us were sad when “Casey” and Analee’s marriage ended. We can all agree that is a very sad thing. But, it has happened and everyone needs to move on with their lives. Can we accept that none of us are perfect and that this is why a loving Savior was provided to us so that we can overcome and grow? I was disappointed to learn that Analee continues her angry, revengeful campaign of blaming “Casey” for everything, slandering his name, and wishing only evil for on him for the rest of his life. She is now contacting his friends and a girl he is dating in personal messages to slander and lie about him. Could you please help her move on and focus on her new family and life? What would Jesus do? She can choose whatever she wants to feel about how and why her first marriage didn’t work. But I know the “Greens” just hope to put it behind them and don’t want to harbor bad feelings toward you or anyone.
What do you believe as a family? I ask you. Do you believe in the atonement of Jesus Christ? Do you believe in forgiveness? God is a God of second chances so will you encourage your daughter to move on and focus on improving herself and making her new life happy? Her hatred is only hurting her and if she wants to continue to write about her anger and hatred from her very selfish perspective then that is her decision. Can we create pace? This is how Latter-Day Saints should treat each other. I hope Analee can find peace soon. This is my sincere desire. Our world has enough anger and division. We, as Latter-Day Saints can and should choose a better way. And, on our side we are choosing peace. We invite Analee to do the same. Sincerely, “Casey’s Aunt
My parents didn’t respond to this … so of course she had to keep going …
The troubling thing about Analee is that she is almost sociopathic in her denial of responsibility and in her need to hurt others. And she does so with a spirit of some kind of sick righteous indignation. Time and experience may bring her regret. Please help your daughter.
My dad had had quite enough of her ignorance (which she later admits to) and attacks. So he responded …
“Wow, you are sick in your head. I tried to give you the benefit of the doubt but you have proven to be relentless. You know nothing of what truly happened. “Casey” is a liar. It is so sad. For you to go on this rampage as you have says a lot about your character as well.
She has admitted plenty of wrong doing actually. Have you considered trying to understand the other side at all? I learned a long time ago that there are two sides of every story. I am learning that to “Green’s” there is only one side. That’s unfortunate.
https://blog.analeechristine.com//2020/07/14/to-my-exs-next-girl/
If you want to begin to understand, you would read the post above.”
Her response? This is where she admits to her ignorance.
You are right. I don’t know what happened between “Casey” and Analee. I have never wanted to understand as I felt it is none of my business. It is not my purpose to write to you and discuss who is to blame. What I am concerned about is the letters Analee has written to Craig’s friends. She crossed a boundary when she did that. Please help her move on and allow both of these young adults to find peace. I sincerely wish Analee joy in her new life. Can Analee simply respect boundaries and allow “Casey” to move on with his life? Why does she feel the need to contact his friends? Has she decided she is his judge and that he should never be happy again? I don’t know what more I can say. If there is any ‘One’ side that our family strives to be on it is on the side of the Savior, forgiveness and peace, because in the end that is all that truly matters. Regardless of how you feel, I truly wish you and your family peace. It’s unfortunate what happened, but both Analee and “Casey” can move on and let the pain of the past go. Help her see that. Please.
Yes… from the blog post I just read, there was a lot of contention in their marriage. Their relationship did not work. Ok. How sad. Awful. Now can they move on? That’s it. Just hoping for peace.
Tremendously painful for them.. I do acknowledge that.. But move on. Why keep it going?
If you know anything about me, the serious ignorance is real. And friends? I messaged one person: his girlfriend. Just in her messages you can see what lies and deceit are taking place. Anyway … my dad’s response knocked it out of the park.
You invoke Christ when it’s convenient for you. I’m pretty sure Christ wouldn’t characterize someone he loved as a sociopath. If someone had a history of lying and abusing people, then it makes sense for someone who knows about it to warn others.
And there you have it folks. This is why I made my message to his girlfriend public. It’s why I made the video. It’s why I’m talking about this again. I have moved on. If I hadn’t moved on and forgiven, there is no way I would’ve dated and married my husband. Believe me, I tried dating to help me get over what happened and move on and it didn’t work! I had to forgive him and find peace in Christ. All I ever did was simply warn. As I said in the letter, the choice is hers, I do not wish him ill, I only wish for repentance and for another girl not to be hurt by narcissism, abuse, lying coupled with the evils of pornography and masturbation.
I have written out the messages to make it easier to read, but here are screenshots too if you need more evidence that I didn’t make this up because, according to some, I’m a lying b*tch.
And I thought I’d add some fun comments that were moderated on my blog posts and then marked as spam by one of their close family friends. Aren’t they so Christ-like and loving? I can really tell they’ve moved on. What do you think?
