Dear Future Boyfriend,
I have been wronged, but I have forgiven.
I have been hurt, but I am not broken.
I was married, but I’m no longer attached.
I am not a “virgin”, but I broke no covenant.
I am not a feminist, but I am independent and self-reliant.
I was hurt by a man, but I do not hate men.
I am divorced, but I am still Analee.
I have loved once, but I can love again.
I have a painful past, but it doesn’t define my present or future.
I have been deceived and abused, but I am looking to trust and be trusted.
I am public about my struggles, but know there are boundaries.
I have lost, but have gained more.
I am not married, but I want to be.
I do not have kids, but being a mother is still my dream.
I am ambitious, but God and family are still my first priorities.
Just because I’ve been married doesn’t mean I had marriage and everything that comes with it figured out… because I definitely didn’t. I still have so much to learn and much growing to do, but I want to do that with someone, the way God intended. Yes, I’m strong and independent, but life has placed me in this position and I’ve run with it.
I want someone who can run with me, someone who I can trust, love, support, and respect because if you are, that means you are honest, supportive, respectful, and loving towards me. I want someone who can love me for me. I want us to inspire improvement in each other. I want to work side-by-side, through thick and thin. I want us to laugh, smile, travel, and go on adventures. I want us to have joy.
I know dating a girl who’s divorced can be intimidating but know I have no unrealistic expectations. I only expect what any person deserves from a relationship: honesty, respect, and kindness. You can ask me any question and I’ll be honest. I may get shy, nervous, or even a little reserved, but when it comes down to it … I’m an open book.
Love, Your Future Girlfriend
